Back after a summer of craziness, cancer and a cross-country move! Stacey shares tips on how to make the best of moving kids–especially kids in school–to a new place. How can you prepare your family to make the move successfully? Listen and learn from a woman with nine-yes-nine children ranging in age from college to kindergarten.
Here are some tips for moving with kids/teens:
- Do lots of research. Uprooting kids (especially teens) is very traumatic for them, so make SURE it’s the best move for your family.
- Once you decide, don’t look back. Remember your old home fondly, but look forward with hope, speak with optimism.
- Find out what your new area is famous for (best fish, biggest clock tower? Special museums? Pumpkin patch, theater, etc.) and explore that with your family.
- Go onto a family history website to find out if you have ancestors who may have lived anywhere near your new place. Visit wherever they came from and feel connected.
- Keep family traditions going (bedtime stories, birthday dinners, holiday rituals) Keep some furniture and decor the same to provide a bridge during the transition time.
- Find a local congregation of your church and get connected there.
- Volunteer at schools, network in the community. Don’t wait for an invitation.
- Take treats to your new neighbors with a card introducing your family. It will break the ice and let them know you’re open for friendship.
- Communicate daily with your kids. Through notes on pillows, texts, emails, phone calls or talks in the car. Just communicate. They will be going through some of the hardest days of their lives. Keep a pulse on how they are doing. Tell them when you feel homesick too. Be a friend and a support. Let them talk safely about their loss of old friends, old school, etc.
- Stay connected with family and friends through Facebook, email, etc. but never say negative things about your new home. Your kids will take their cues from you. If you transition well, chances are, they will too. Soon, you’ll realize that home is simply where the heart is. 🙂