Toddlers Establishing Independence

ShellyHenryShelly and Clarie Lerner (our favorite guest from Zero to Three) discuss why Henry is acting up in Australia and how Shelly can reframe the situation to see that Henry is not being defiant.  It isn’t really a Terrible Two thing either.  This is a time with toddlers begin to explore their independence.

Also, Claire and Shelly discuss how the move to Australia could trigger other feelings in Henry.  They also discuss how Shelly’s other kids are adjusting and why Shelly’s oldest child in Australia is experiencing the same feelings that her youngest is experiencing.

Check out more about Claire at Zero to Three.

Read more about Shelly’s adventures in Australia at Seven On Sabbatical.

Note: This show is much longer than our regular shows but packed with amazing information.  We will take next week off for Thanksgiving.  Please give thanks for all the great people in your life!

Before You Put Your Child on Medication Listen

Tricia and Nancy discuss what to do when a doctor suggests medication for your child.  We focus on a diagnosis of ADD but this applies to anytime your doctor discusses medicating your child.

The First Snow–Think about Skiing

LadiesDay3Ok Ladies.  The first snow has fallen.  WHOO HOO!  That means you should be thinking about skiing with us.  We are gathering our 2016 Sundance Ladies Day group.  We have some women returning from last year and several new ones who haven’t skied with us before.  So far, we have 15 ladies skiing with us.  If you want to know more about the experience, check out the posts below.

Here is the bottom line:  We have tons of fun, learn a bunch of stuff and we claim our power!  Nothing feels quite like flying down a mountain at 15-30 miles an hour and knowing you have control.   And we show our kids that we ARE cool.  Classes are organized based on ability levels, Beginner to Advanced so don’t worry if you feel like you can’t keep up because you can.  We are all growing in our abilities.

The Details: Ladies Day Specialty Clinics are held Tuesdays or Thursdays from 10am-12:30pm.  I have organized a 20% discount for our group.  So reach out to me and let me know you want to ski with us.  I am skiing on Tuesdays in January and hope you will too but I know some of you have to ski on Thursdays or have to take a class in February or March.  Check out details at Sundance Ladies Day.

One More Thing: At the same time, Sundance has a special class for the kids of the Ladies Day participants.  I take my kids out of school because it is an amazing opportunity for them to learn.  My kids have friends they ski with and we also go as a family.

Let’s go have some fun!

Check out my post as a guest blogger for Sundance! #sundanceresort

Last Year’s Fun:


Becoming a Better Mom By Hearing our Internal Story

We talk with Katie McClain, author, life coach and mother, about what happens when we find out that our parenting tactics and the stories we tell ourselves affect our children and weaken us as parents.  We learn how to parent from our strengths and change our internal stories and our tactics for success.

Learn more about Katie McClain, go to

Katie’s Book we Love: How to Tame Your Thought Monster
Tame Your Thought Monster Coloring Book
Tame Your Thought Monster App


To listen to the Thought Monster show, go to

Baby Signing Essentials–Nancy’s New Book

We discuss Nancy’s new book Baby Signing Essentials and the basics of why you would want to sign with your baby.  If you are out of the baby stage, this book makes a great gift for a friend who is having a baby or has a young child.

Email to Nancy if you want to get a free copy of the book (first 2 emails win).


Understanding Your Child’s CoreSelf

We think our job is a parent is to raise a child who is a success and that we have the experience to see what their potential is and how to mold them into the best adult possible. We feel that we need to create the right situations and encourage or kids to be the best they can be and anything less is not good enough. And most kids want to please us so we can really influence our kids. BUT IS THAT REALLY SUCCESS as a parent?

Author Nancy Rose writes that there are two parts to parenting from Acceptance:

  • Who your child is and the parts you cannot change (She calls this the CoreSelf)
  • What your child does and the things you can and must influence (your child’s behavior)

Tricia and Nancy discuss how understanding your child’s CoreSelf can lead you to be a better parent to the child you have instead of the potential child you want. Check out the CoreSelf list for yourself at Nancy Rose’s website (you sign up for her email and the link is sent to you–just know you don’t get spammed or get too much email–I haven’t gotten any additional ones).

Quotes from today’s show:

Try to see your child as a seed that came in a packet without a label.  Your job is to provide the right environment and nutrients and to pull the weeds.  You can’t decide what kind of flower you’ll get or in which season it will bloom. – Anonymous

Acceptance is like the fertile soil that permits a tiny seed to develop into the lovely flower it is capable of becoming. The soil only enables the seed to become the flower. It releases the capacity of the seed to grow, but the capacity is entirely within the seed. As with the seed, a child contains entirely within his organism the capacity to develop. Acceptance is like the soil-it merely enables the child to actualize his potential.–Thomas Gordon

Avoiding Toxic Relationships

Jordin Corlett, founder of Boundaries of Love, discusses the warning signs of toxic relationships and how to avoid them.  We also discuss how to talk to your young adult children about toxic relationships.  Even if you are in a great relationship, this discussion helps you prepare for the discussion you might have to have with a child or friend.

Parenting the Introverted Child

She was told her son had autism but today, he is in the top 4% of students across the country.  Pilar’s son is brilliant, but he is introverted so he never spoke up in class and had a hard time socializing with kids.  In our extrovert-oriented society, her son’s skills were not immediately valued.  Now that he has won national prizes for a documentary and an app that he created, people are beginning to see her son’s talents shine (even if he is still the quietest kid in the class.  Learn how to parent an introverted child and how to help them find their mojo.

Pilar recommends reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

And Check out the TED Talk on Introverts

Who Do You Think You Are?

Finding your roots is not something that only the stars can do.  Now affordable DNA kits let you take a peek into your family’s past. Websites like make locating ancestors easier.  And helps you write your family history.  Learn about Nancy’s experience as she tested her DNA and got a real surprise.

Forget Stranger Danger Think Tricky People

Mom told you not to talk to strangers.  But she really should have told you to watch out for Tricky People! Pattie Fitzgerald, creator of Safely Ever After, discusses what we really should be worried about and how to arm our children so they are ready to face Tricky People.  Her website and books teach kids that they are the boss of their body.

Traumatic Brain Injuries on the Rise

According to the CDC, concussions and other traumatic brain injuries (TBI) in children increased 60% in the past decade.  We talk with Alexis Carroll, mother of a young man seriously injured in a skateboarding accident about how the decision to take off his helmet changed both their lives. This is a cautionary tale for every mother with tips to help you keep your child safe when riding, boarding, scootering, or skating.

Check out the local news story on Alex and Alexis:

Check out the Facebook Page for Alex’s progress:

Empowering Kids to Deal with a Hyper-sexualized World

As never before, our society focuses on a person’s looks and sexuality.  From seemingly innocent ways to devastatingly manipulative ways, children are exposed to sexuality at younger and younger ages and in much more in-your-face ways.  How do we equip our children to deal with everything coming at them? Dina Alexander, President of Educate and Empower Kids, explains what we need to do as parents and where we can get the resources we need to raise future adults who have a healthy understanding of sexuality and the amazing blessing it can be when approached appropriately.

Check out for more resources.  Check out the 30 Days of Sex Talks books on

Free Range Vs Helicopter

The news has been filled with stories of children being picked up by the police for walking to the park to play with parents investigated for neglect. This got us thinking about whether the world is such an unsafe place that we need to hover over our children or raise them in glass cages or if we are doing more damage by not allowing them to experience independence.  Should we be the ones to call 911 when we see children alone or can we be the block mom and assess the situation before we get hysterical?  We discuss our fears and the facts of today’s world.

Disneyland Tips 2015

Since it is one of the places most visited by families with kids (our main listeners) and since we go there ourselves, we want to share the tips we learn for a successful trip.  We discuss Tricia’s first trip with her clan and how she made the week spectacular.

Check out Disneyland Tips from a past show.


Success in Weight Loss–It’s All In Your Head

Tricia and Nancy discuss how to lose weight.  Both women have lost large amounts of weight (70+105 pounds) and have changed their lives.  Tricia is currently in the midst of her weight loss journey and is changing her life (70 pounds and going strong).  She shares the reasons for her success and she and Nancy talk about what is most important when you decide to change your body and change your life. Nancy shares her journey to lose 105 pounds and her journey back to lose the 30 pounds she gained after surgery and recovery.

Technology To Help Find Lost Kids

We talk to Spencer Behrend, Founder and CEO if KiLife about upcoming technology he and his wife envisioned after losing their child during a parade.  Kiband is more than bluetooth tag for your child.  It uses smart alerts to let you and your child know when your child has moved away from your zone of comfort and allows your child to learn to stay in the zone.  It also has advanced features to warn you if your child enters the water.  This product is so evolutionary that we had to talk about it even though it isn’t even out in the market yet.   We want you to learn about it so you can be prepared when this great product is released.

Listen to Spencer and learn about the Kiband and how to develop an idea you have into a product. If you have ever had an idea and thought, “If I could find that product, I would buy it,” you may have a new product in the making.


Snow Sisters

I so look forward to January because of Sundance Ladies Day.  It truly is the highlight of my winter.  Today was the last day of the January Session and I will miss it.   I can definitely use more ski lessons before I ski as beautifully as I want to, so maybe I will come back in March (February is WAY too busy and my boss wants me back at work). But, this session included some of my favorite women AND the best instructor on the mountain! How do you top that?

There is just something about Sundance that seems tailor-made for women hanging out together.  As I sat at the bottom of Jake’s lift waiting for my daughter and her friends to finish skiing today (they had enough energy to do several additional runs after I was finished), I saw so many women skiing.  Friends who came up to enjoy the day together or moms with their kids.  Skiing seems like an aggressive sport that intimidates women, but the environment at Sundance is so laid back and inviting that it is the perfect place for us.  I have been to other resorts that remind me of a snow-covered Disneyland–way too many people, way too long to get to where you want to be, way too much distraction.  Sundance is calm, nurturing and natural.

This year, will be remembered as one of the best with several of my friends and my daughter’s friends getting on the slopes for the first time ever or in a long time.  Some of these women I only met on the mountain but they now are my Snow Sisters! We have stories to tell, experiences to remember and better skiing skills.

If you have ever thought about getting back into skiing or starting to ski, Sundance Ladies Day is the way to do it.  The supportive learning environment makes it easy to learn, the instructors are top-notch, and getting to know the other women is so dang fun.  Come be a Snow Sister with us! 20150127_111406