Preparing a Child for Surgery

When your child has to have surgery, how can you prepare them so it is less stressful for them and YOU! We talk about what to do before the day of surgery and what not to do as well as how to make the transition easier.

Additional Information:  Here is an article Shelly found about how one doctor helps children deal with pain during surgery.  It shows what doctors can do when they approach children with pain management techniques.  http://commonhealth.wbur.org/2012/09/doctor-says-it-wont-hurt

Makes me sad for the experiences that many of us had with doctors when we were children.  Our kids can have a much better experience than we did.

Making Summer Work

Summer is a transition out of regular routine.  Are you a planner or not?  How do you make summer a success for you and your kids?  We discuss how we face summer.  Some of us are planners and others are “free range.”  Learn the benefits of both styles and how to find your own style for success.

Having a Hysterectomy

Dr. Kari Lawrence discusses the most common but one of the most secretive surgeries–the hysterectomy.  What circumstances lead a woman to have a hysterectomy and what alternatives are there today to having abdominal surgery.

Learning to Play an Instrument as an Adult

Think it is too late to learn an instrument?  Lindsay is living proof that it isn’t.  She takes lessons from Tricia.  Nancy and Shelly learned to play guitar as adults (Shelly much better than Nancy).  We discuss what it takes to learn an instrument as an adult and what it can give to your soul to take on the challenge.

Our Mothers Knew It

We share insights our mothers gave us and strengths they passed on to us in honor of them this Mother’s Day!  Listen with your mom and then share with her what she taught you.

He is Here!

Shelly shares with us what it is like to have her new son around.

Getting Grants or Donations for Your Child’s School

Karen Reno shares her tips and ideas for how to get products and services for your child’s school.  If they need technology or even landscaping, there is probably a grant or a program to help.  Big businesses like Target and Lowes are ready to help and so are smaller companies in your community.  Learn how Karen was able to get donations for many things from shade trees to electronic classroom survey systems donated for very little effort.

When a Kid Needs a Cell Phone

When should you give your child a cell phone and what rules should you use with your child? We discuss how to determine when you child is ready and what expectations you should set up with your child.  Check out one mom’s contract with her son.

NOTE:  Since we recorded this show, Bill Gates, the creator of Windows and Microsoft and a god in the technology world, has stated that he gives his children a cell phone at 13 on a limited basis.  So, Nancy chatted with her son and let him know that she isn’t the mean miserly mom.  If the man who can give away 260 BILLION dollars makes his kids wait until they are 13, Nancy is sticking to her guns!

Having a Baby After 40

Dr. Kari Lawrence joins us to talk about what it is like to have a baby after 40 and what Shelly can expect her birth experience to be like.  She has very positive news for women who are considering having babies later in life.

Handing Comments about Your Child with Special Needs

Claire Lerner discusses how to help your child deal with uncomfortable comments.  Even though we focus on children with Special Needs, these skills work for all kids and can help your child be prepared for those times when people are less than kind.  Listen and learn!

Recovering from a Schedule Buster

Sometimes well-meaning family members come into town and upset our fine-crafted schedules.  We want to spend time with them because they are not with us everyday.  But the aftermath can last long after they return home.  Learn how to keep your kids on a schedule even when family come into town and how to get them back to normal after family have left.

Running when Pregnant

Runner Julie Thomas discusses how things change when you are pregnant and if you can keep running.  She is the mom of 6 children and trained for marathons while pregnant.  Shelly, our Zumba instructor co-hosts asks all her questions about how to run when pregnant.

Ladies Day Spring Ski Lessons

Spring skiing in Utah is interesting.  Last week, it was still cold and then almost overnight, the temperature rose by 25 degrees and things began to change.  I was a bit hesitant to take Sundance Ladies Day in March, but I had such a BLAST in January and could not take it in February that I had to take a chance.  This is the first time Sudance has offered Ladies Day in March in years.

I was having one of THOSE days where it would have been safer to lock me in a padded room than put me on skis, but I did not want to miss out on the learning and the comradery.  Seeing Lindsay and Linda started to change my attitude, but I had the jitters really bad.  I had gone skiing on Monday afternoon and it was no good.  It had rained and then iced over and I was not happy–after three runs, I gathered up the kids and left.  We all crawled into bed when we got home.

Monday’s experience was still fresh in my brain  but the snow today was actually great! We started class by skiing up to the First Stop (I found out today that people in the know call that Mid Mountain).  We showed our ski skills to the instructors and were divided up into groups by ability.  Lindsay and I have now officially made it to the Intermediate group and were so happy to have Linda be our instructor again.

Lindsay and I have been skiing a few times together since January and she got a really NICE set of skis.  Last Saturday, I could tell that she was no longer a beginner and had some real style to her skiing. Her years of snowboarding are now transitioning to ski knowledge.

Linda took us straight up to the Back Mountain–the Top.  We started working more on carving.  Linda calls it directional skiing.  Lindsay got it right off but I was having issues.  Like I said–Padded Room. So, it was my turn to get ALL the attention during the lesson (sorry Lindsay).

Linda pulled out all the tricks teaching skiing for years gives you to help me get myself back on track without any frustration or judgement.  That is what I so LOVE about Ladies Day–you get help right where you are at specific to the things you need to work on and you don’t feel dumb if you struggle.  January was Lindsay’s learning curve and this lesson seems to be mine.

Since temperatures were a bit warmer, I decided not to wear my Demon Flexforce X D3O Women’s Long Pants (my crash pants I call them).  But I wish I had worn them because I did take a tumble and slid down the mountain about 100 feet.  Nothing badly bruised except my ego.  But, the Demon pants would have provided the padding to make it easier (remember that Padded Room–I should have taken it with me).

By the end of the day, I think I got the hang of carving.  I do have to get different skis though because the ones I have are NOT made for carving and I believe in the right equipment.  Thank goodness Sundance Ladies Day has a deal that if you bring two friends, each person will get high performance rentals for FREE!  I will be taking advantage of that next week.  What a deal!

Just in case you did the math, I have another friend, Ashlee, who is doing Ladies Day on Tuesday (that makes my 2 friends this time).  She had a wonderful experience Tuesday and is loving Sundance Ladies Day as well.

Next year, I have more friends who want to ski.  Come join us.  It is an amazing experience.

FYI:  If you want to know about ski totals in Utah, check out http://www.utah.com/ski/snowfall.htm

What My Child Needs to Get to College

High school guidance counselor *** explains what our kids really need to be doing to make it to college including what extra-curricular activities pay off and what your child might be doing already that looks good on a college application.  She also explains why more activities don’t always lead to a better application and why some kids need to relax a bit.

Baby Wearing

Shelly and Lindsay discuss various ways to “wear” your baby along with the advantages of each style of wrap.  Lindsay, who has tried them all, explains why some are better than others.

Check out www.wrapyourbaby.com and wwwthebabywearer.com for more information on wraps.

Baby Led-Weaning

9780091923808You never have to mash or mix or blend another meal again for your baby! Tracey Murkett, co-author of Baby-led Weaning, discusses how to help your baby love real food and not be picky all while making family dinner time more enjoyable for everyone in the house–even when you have children spread in age from 20 years to 6 months.

Skiing as a Family

Nancy and Lindsay discuss how to get the entire family into winter sports like skiing–both downhill and cross country.  Don’t stay locked inside the house this winter–get out together and enjoy an amazing, healthy time together.

Learn more about skiing lessons at Sundance Resort on our Sundance Ladies Day page. Learn about the 5th and 6th Grade Ski and Snowboard Passport.

Check out Lindsay and Nancy conquering the mountain!LadiesDayGroup

Reaching the Top

TopThe Last Day of my 2013 Sundance Ladies Day  classes was everything I could have hoped for.  Utah was caught in a crazy snowstorm and my husband did not want me to go up the mountain.  But how could I miss out on fresh powder?  I checked the road conditions in the canyon and got a call from someone who had already reached Sundance and knew the roads were better in the canyon than in town so I went for it.

The kids and I crept up canyon.  It took us twice as long to get there–but I cannot complain because that is all of 30 minutes.  When we reach Sundance, the sky is almost clear and everything seems perfect.  I realize that we have forgotten my helmet and goggles. I know it will be snowing up top so they are a must.  At the Sundance Outfitters, I am quickly helped by a rental helmet and a generous 40% off on a pair of goggles (didn’t know I needed new ones, but Hey–can’t miss this day).

Problem solved we head to Ski School.  The kids quickly find their instructors and head out happy for a day of skiing.  Lindsay has brought her daughter for her first downhill ski lesson.  Her daughter has skied cross country, but never downhill.  As always, Sundance is ready for anything and has an instructor waiting for her.

Our first activity is to try out the pole plant.  Linda is a bit worried that we are not ready, but she is such a great teacher that we quickly get a handle on it (or at least a basic understanding of what we are supposed to do–I don’t get it each time but I can see how it is helpful).

With the first lesson of the day under our belt, we decide that we had better tackle the top of the mountain today.  When I started Sundance Ladies Day this year, I thought MAYBE we would get to the top, but I wasn’t sure that I would be ready.  I find myself totally excited and ready to do it.  Something about being with Linda, one of the great instructors, and with other ladies makes it seem natural.

TopNancyLindsayRachelWe head up to find that the storm brewing in the valley is also at the top of the mountain.  So there is no clear view of the valleys below.  But here is the proof that we made it to the top!  I am so excited that I made it there.  It is my first time EVER making it to this point.  But now, we have to ski down (and remember that pole plant technique too!).  I was a bit nervous and I think all of us were a bit unsure since we could not see too many feet in front of us with the blowing snow, but we trusted Linda and headed out.

Amy’s Ridge is beautiful even in a snowstorm and so easy to ski.  LOVED IT!  I even got some pole planting done.  The powder snow was amazing! Wow is all I can say.  I had often thought people who ski are sadistic–who would want to hurdle themselves down a mountain on slippery wooden planks?  Now I get it.  So much fun!

On our way down, I am able to practice pole planting and also a bit of deep powder skiing.  On one of the runs (Roundabout), we get into some deep stuff.  I took two spills, but thanks to my protection pants, nothing hurts.  I love these pants created by Demon Sports.  Check out my post about equipment here.   I don’t fear falling anymore and I am even able to get up myself so I have made great progress since last year.

We are able to get in another fabulous run on Jake’s Lift and even though I still have tons of things to work on, skiing is getting to be just fun and exhilarating.  We are   doing more straight down the hill skiing and feeling how to control our speed and have fun with the turns. We are also able to see Lindsay’s daughter skiing down the first stop and even jumping on her skis for us.  She has learned to ski in one lesson!  She is as cool as her mommy!

LindaNancyI can’t tell you how sad I am that next week, I don’t have a lesson.  I can’t take in February or I would.  I will be back in March because it is so much fun.  I have loved Sundance Ladies Day this year even more than last year and can see why ladies come back year after year and bring their friends.  I have two other friends who will be coming in March and Rachel and Lindsay have sworn that they are coming too!  So, start in February and then join us in March!  We would love to see you on the mountain!

For more information on my experience this year and last, check out my Sundance Ladies Day  page.

New Baby Changes Family with Older Kids

Claire Lerner chats with Shelly about how adding a 7th child will change her family and how she can help her older kids (ages 8-20) adjust and accept their new sibling.  Claire has a very positive view of what these interactions can teach Shelly’s kids and the lessons the whole family can learn.  Claire is the Director of Parenting Resources for Zero to Three.