Head to Heart: Our First Experiences

We cover the basics of Head to Heart with founder, Johnny Covey and how we worked to get out of fright and flight (head) and into our hearts with our kids. Listen to this session and see what we learned and see how you might find ways to help your kids when they get in their Fright-Flight so they can make an amazing choice to create a better way for themselves.

THEN, get a Head to Heart group together and/or send us your Head to Heart experiences.  We want to hear how this is working for you!

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Grandma Version of Me

Julie Nelson, author of Parenting with Spiritual Power, discusses how the voice of a trusted grandmother figure can help you in your parenting.  Grandparents say that if they had known how great grandparenting would be, they would have skipped right to it.  Why is that and how can we use the wisdom grandparents have to make our parenting more enjoyable and impactful. The “grandma version” of ourselves is wise and witty and helps us to achieve the balance we need to survive the years until we do indeed become grandparents.

Head to Heart: How To Get Started

We chat with Head to Heart founder, Johnny Covey about how to get yourself and your kids out of the fright and flight (head) and into action (heart) to face fears, solve problems and find success in your daily life and peace in your children’s lives.

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Head to Heart is a framework that allows you to Choose to Change and Create. We all have had experiences that keep us from Creating what we want. Johnny spent 12 years searching for the answer to the question Why don’t I choose to do what I know? He read hundreds of books, attended conferences all over the country and invested over 10,000 hours to get the answer: The Head to Heart framework. Yes, he is related to that other well-known Covey so this figuring out thing is in his genes!  His great uncle Steven R. Covey taught about being proactive, Choosing your response. The Head to Heart framework allows anyone, regardless of their previous Experiences to Choose their response. It is so digestible that anyone can understand it, so doable that they will actually use it, so duplicable that they can teach it right away.

When we are using our Head we hold back, worried about what others think about us. In our Heart we are able to be ourselves and fully express ourselves. We Create rather than Control.

This session is the How To Get Started.  We will have future episodes where we discuss our results and what we found as we use this process in our lives.

Keeping Kids Safe on Social Media

Nancy shares her family’s scary social media experience and discusses tips to help kids navigate social media with clinical social worker, Kim Kettle.  Learn how a mom who set up incredibly distinct rules for using technology found a predator taking aim at her child and how you can keep your child safe while teaching them how to have good social media skills.  Your child is all alone in the social media landscape and you have to step up and be their guide and their support in this lonely space.

Kim’s Reasons WHY parents need to Help Kids with Social Media

  1. Ensure kindness
  2. Be aware of who they are communicating with
  3. Be aware of sites they are visiting
  4. Help them develop good judgment

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Missing a Childhood

Could you be missing your child’s childhood?  Modern parents struggle with something that parents of previous generations never did–the persistence of the cell phone/smart phone/internet.  Even 10 years ago, the use of these devices was not so everpresent in our lives.  By being plugged in, we can actually miss our children’s childhood.  We discuss what we can do to ensure we don’t miss our children’s lives while still living in the modern age.

For more information, see this blog:  http://www.handsfreemama.com/2012/05/07/how-to-miss-a-childhood/

“I can recall a time when you were out with your children you were really with them. You engaged in a back and forth dialog even if they were pre-verbal. You said, ‘Look at the bus, see the doggie, etc.’ Now I see you on the phone, pushing your kids on the swings while distracted by your devices. You think you are spending time with them but you are not present really. When I see you pick up your kids at day care while you’re on the phone, it breaks my heart. They hear your adult conversations. What do they overhear? What is the message they receive? I am not important; I am not important.”

Guy’s Take on Ladies Day

Last Saturday, I went to Sundance for a lesson from the same instructor that Nancy has had during Sundance Ladies Day last season. His name is Jay and he is a regular Ladies Day Instructor. Frankly, I thought it wouldn’t be much of a challenge for a guy who comfortably skis the black runs for almost last twenty years. Maybe he could give me a few pointers, but I know how to get down a mountain fast so what could he teach me?

It was a humbling experience, to say the least. The lesson showed me clearly that I no longer could call myself a decent skier. After the first run, Jay kindly pointed out several areas that I need to work on so that I can improve my skills. Being a car guy, Jay used car analogies to help me understand what I was doing wrong and how to make thing right–this made things clear to me. Jay also did other things with me like drawing the forces that act on a body during the turns on the snow, “playing tug of war” pulling each others’ hand and twisting the body while trying to keep the balance, following Jay’s ski line on the runs, and “waltzing on the snow” drawing the circles with the boots.  All these tips made total sense and helped better embrace the new concepts.

Run after run, we went over things that I needed to pay attention to. Ski lifts quickly became not only a chance to recap the instructions but also increasingly more welcome breaks between the runs. By noon, my mind was overloaded with new information and my legs and back was surely screaming for a break. After the lesson was over, I thought I would take a few more runs to solidify what I had been taught but my body was ready for a hot tub and a long afternoon nap.

The main point learned was that lessons are not easy if you do them right but they can really advance your skills even for tough guys who think that they are awesome on the slopes.

WIFE NOTE: My husband’s experience was so much like my experience with Sundance Ladies Day–it is an incredible learning opportunity and there is so much to be conquered to get better at skiing.  So, even if you are not a beginning skier and have skied for 20 years, come try it.  There is an instructor and a level just for you! And not so secretly, I am glad Jay worked him out because I have had many-a-day when I came home mentally and physically wiped out when my husband wondered why 2 hours of skiing could be so taxing.  Now, he understands!  We learn the same skills and do the same drills he mentioned above.

What I Learned in Sochi and at Sundance

This week, I missed Sundance Ladies Day for the Olympics in Sochi. It was so wonderful to be there next to the Black Sea and to be able to watch the greatest skiers in the world.

I wish!  Actually, I got bronchitis and had to miss Ladies Day. Since I had tons of “quality time” laying in bed, I watched downhill, slalom, freestyle, super combined and so on and sometimes when the coughing woke me up, I got to watch the same events again at 2 am.  I even watched snowboarding (yes, Lindsay, I am sure you are proud of me for not being prejudice).

I always watch the Olympics like a good American cheering on the Home Team.  I worry and fret over races that have already been run 11 hours earlier.  And without my favorite sports broadcaster, Bob Costas, things could have been even more bleak than a Tolystoy Winter and worse than the snow in Sochi.

But, not so. I approached the Olympics like attending the world’s most advanced ski school.  Watching the world’s best skiers and listening to the comments made by the mostly insightful Dan Hicks.  In true American fashion, I have used my ingenuity to learn what I can from the situation I am in and I think I have gained a great deal from my Sochi Olympic Ski School.  Now, it is in no way as good as Sundance Ladies Day and I can’t wait to get back on the slopes, but in the mean time, let me share with you what I learned in Sochi that I also learned at Sundance.

Same Struggles: Last week, Kipper said that there are not a lot of new skills to learn, just degrees of perfecting those skills.  Now, I see what she means because watching the world’s best, I could see the same struggles just in much more refined stages.  Lindsay will be proud to know that Ted Ligity shares her hand dropping problem.  Julia Mancuso got too far in her back seat and lost control like I do sometimes (well a lot of times).  I saw skiers turn their upper bodies (my big mistake).  Others lost focus or tried to push the skies too soon instead of trusting the line they had taken.  Many struggled with conditions, which, to be fair, have been awful.  I thought I was the only person who hated skiing on variable snow conditions but I see that even the world’s best hate it as much as I do.

Same Skills: The skills that Sundance instructors are teaching are the same skills that Olympians need to work on. Of course, they are working on perfecting their skills in millimeters and are working on shaving off milliseconds, but I see them using the same skills my instructors are teaching me.  Watching the mogul skiers I see the value of keeping the upper body pointed down the mountain while keeping the lower body pivoting like a gyroscope.   Seeing the downhill races, I understand the importance of keeping the ski on edge and pushing the ski into the mountain.  I see how much chatter there really is in the ski and how strong you can be (and how much your ski flexes—WOW).  I may not be laying it down like Bode Miller, but I realize my ski can take a more aggressive line than I have given it credit for.  Kipper has been telling me to be a warrior and attack the mountain.  There is nothing dainty in the way Julia Mancuso skis—even if she is girlie with her sequins and her tiara.  She attacks the mountain and goes full force.  Don’t hold back.

Play to Strengths: I noticed that each skier has a different ski personality. Some are the type that just shoot down the mountain like their rear is on fire.  Others plot their way down with more precision.  The successful ones know their strengths and use them to be more successful.   As a new skier, I need to find my own strengths and play to those.  I don’t have the same strengths as Lindsay.  She, by nature, is more aggressive than me and has more athletic experience and snowboarding experience than me.  I think mine is patience.  I am willing to wait for it to come and practice over time—at least I keep telling myself this is true.  Fake it till you make it right?   My husband reminded me the other day that I have only been skiing a total of about 50 hours so I needed to cut myself some slack because expecting anyone to do something well that is not related to anything they have EVER done in 50 hours is probably not very realistic.  True.  I will use my patience strength to be a great skier by the time I am in my 50s! Over time, this will pay of and I am having fun in the mean time.  Ladies Day each year is definitely speeding up my process.  I would never have made it this far without their help.

Nobody Does it Alone: You see one person swooshing down the mountain, but you don’t see the 20 people behind the person who made it possible for that person to be up there: parents, trainers, coaches, and so forth who were there to support, teach, and train that person from a very young age so they could have an Olympic moment.  Same thing for me.  Without Sundance Ladies Day, I would have given up the first season—actually, I never would have tried without Linda Hale.  And then if I had tried and stayed with it, I definitely would have quit this year when I had my ride in the toboggan.  But, great instructors helped me get back up there and are keeping me coming back.  As soon as I am medically cleared, I will be back up on the slopes.

Got to Have Heart: Finally, no Olympian makes it there by giving up. Like the penguins of Madagascar say, it takes spit, grit and a whole lot of duct tape.  Amen!

Overstimulating Babies

We discuss what we are doing to our babies with some of the gadgets and toys we offer to them.  Through over-stimulation, we may be raising children who no longer know how to entertain themselves or who can sit quietly and think about things.  In the Google age where everything is accessible, maybe a bit of wonder and boredom goes a long way to helping babies and children develop the skills to think for themselves.  Check out our discussion led by Shelly who has children 20 years apart (so she knows a thing or two about how things have changed).

 

In Too Deep: Learning to Ski Powder

Last year, I missed the best month of snow so I was determined to ski Sundance Ladies Day this February. Day 1, I was not disappointed: 6 inches of deep powder. WOW! I have never skied that much deep powder. But, I am getting ahead of myself.

In my last post, I discussed being OK as a tortoise who has friends who are all hares when it comes to sports. Well, I took another friend, Marreya, to her first time skiing and once again, she conquered the mountain in one try—all the way to the top of the main lift on Day 1. I am so happy for her.

I have spent a lot of time thinking about my tortoise status and talking with my husband and I realized that my friends all have experience in other sports and that translates to success in skiing. Lindsay snowboards, Andrea water skies, Marreya snowboards and ice skated. But me, I am a true couch potato now trying to learn to ski. And when we started counting the hours I have actually skied, it is only about 30 hours total. SOOOOO, I am officially cutting myself some slack and embracing my tortoise status and thanking the instructors at Sundance Ladies Day for getting this TRUE couch potato as far as I have gotten.

This month, I am skiing with Kipper. She has always been the instructor teaching the highest level ladies class. Mary Ann and I are together. Mary Ann has skied since she was 16 but only skies with her kids and is looking to gain confidence and learn skills. Kipper is teaching us this time and giving another instructor a chance with the most advanced skiers. But, even though we are not the most advanced (we are somewhere in the middle), she teaches us with the same intensity she teaches the advanced class—or at least it seems that way.

Kipper is amazing to ski with. She grew up with a dad as the director of the Snowbird Ski School and now he is the Director of Sundance Ski School (Jerry Warren). It is in her blood and she teaches with an intensity that is amazing! Match her intensity with fresh powder conditions (6 inches of deep, ungroomed powder and more coming down) and it was enough to wipe me out for the rest of the day. I literally went home and laid on the couch I was so tired.

The great thing about taking classes from different instructors at Sundance Ladies Day is that each instructor has their own way of talking and their own approach to things. I have been working on the same issue for the several weeks and have seen some improvement. But one issue still baffles me—getting my body position so that my hips are pointing up the mountain and my head and chest are down the mountain in the proper carve position (read my previous posts). Kipper had some ideas to try that seemed to help and thanks to her new approach, I am a bit closer than I was last week. It is a hard skill for me to learn and I am continuing to chip away at it and some day I will get it. Maybe I will finally get a breakthrough this Ladies Day and it will begin to come naturally for me.

Thanks Kipper for an exhausting and wonderful first day! Marreya, I am so glad for you that you are an amazing first time skier. What can I say. You, and all my other friends are hares and can do everything else physical much better than me. I will have to try harder and better and longer. But at this pace, I will have a great group of friends to ski with me by the time we are all ready to go!

Now that I have rested, I am ready to go again! There are 30 inches of new snow waiting for waiting for Kipper, Mary Ann and me for our Three Hour Tour! Thank goodness we don’t have Ginger, the Professor and Mr. and Mrs. Thurstan Howell III skiing with us.  I feel like Gilligan!

Stopping Entitlement

Lindsay shares her feelings about entitlement and how to raise children who don’t feel like the are entitled to everything.  Learn easy ways to help your child learn to value what she is given and work for what he wants.

For more information and ideas, read this article: http://wearethatfamily.com/2013/12/5-signs-kids-are-struggling-with-entitlement/

 

Carving Up the Mountain

I am not coordinated like my friends Lindsay and Andrea who caught on to skiing quickly. I am a slow learner (think tortoise and the hare) and that is OK.  But, this is my year to learn to carve.  I can feel it!  New skis, great conditions (even without any fresh snow–thanks to Sundance’s great groomers), and fabulous Sundance Ladies Day instructors.

This week, we worked on carving again.  Of course, Lindsay gets it because she is a snowboarder and that is the natural state of the snowboarder.  For me, the idea of leaning in to the mountain and being on the thin edge of the ski seems ridiculous.  But, I trust Cody, my super instructor and the man who got me up on skis and down the bunny hill 3 seasons ago.  So, I am trying to defy my body’s sense of right and Carving Turn_13001230500wrong and throw myself down the mountain while laying into it at the same time.  Is that a good way to describe carving?  This is what it is supposed to look like.  Well, some day I will get there.

The point of Sundance Ladies Day is that I can keep going each season until I get it.  And maybe I will never get to this point but I enjoy the process of learning to ski so much.  Don’t tell my kids, but I actually enjoy skiing with Ladies Day more than skiing with them right now.  I get to concentrate on my own skiing and have fun with my friends rather than focusing on my kids.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and I love being with them but I LOVE Ladies Day.  I feel safe and secure and also I feel stretched.  This week, I stretched in ways that I haven’t stretched all year and I have muscles that hurt from trying to carve.  But I slept last night so deep that my kids had to wake me up in the morning.  That is what a good day on the mountain will do for you.

AndreaBearClawPinThis was the last lesson in this session and I am so proud of Andrea that she was able to learn to ski Bearclaw in 3 weeks and get more comfortable in 4.  Anna also learned to ski Bearclaw this session so as as family we can all ski Bearclaw now.  That means we no longer have to split up so the boys can have fun and I stay with Anna on the front mountain.  Thanks to Anna’s instructor Caleb who has faithfully helped her everAnnaBearClawy season, she has conquered the mountain.Check out Andrea and Anna getting their Bearclaw pins!

I am beyond proud of this first session and am heading back for more skiing and more lessons!  I started the seasons out on a toboggan and in the back of an ambulance having lost my confidence worried that I did not have the ability to do anything physical (you can read about that in Back on the Horse).  But, skiing has taught me that I can.  I may be a bit slower than my friends, but this tortoise is going to carve up the mountain at her own pace. Watch out you hares because I am on my way!

 

Top of the Mountain in Three Easy Lessons

My friend Andrea had “skied” three times in her life.  You know that kind of skiing:  someone who can’t remember how hard it is to stand on the side of a snow-covered mountain on waxed ironing boards (skis) takes you to the top and says, “Meet you at the bottom!

Well, after years of therapy, I convinced Andrea that I would NOT do that to her and that she would LOVE skiing.  Thanks to Sundance Ladies Day, I was proven right.  Andrea started skiing three weeks ago with Steve, her incredible instructor.  On Day 1, she made it off the bunny hill and on to the lift for 5 (count ‘em 5) runs down mid mountain!

But that is not all folks!  On Week 3, I got the surprise of a lifetime when I heard Andrea calling my name on the TOP of the mountain!  Can you believe it? Here’s a picture to prove it.AndreaTop

Needless to say, Andrea learned to ski WAY faster than me (come to think of it, so did Lindsay—I need to get less athletic friends so I don’t feel like such a schmuck). It took me 10 lessons to get to the top.  Maybe it helps that she knows how to water ski and I don’t.

The best thing is that I now have another buddy to ski with. And, since our husbands both ski, we have a new date opportunity.  We can play hooky during the week and ski. We have traveled around the world together and now we can have fun in our own backyard!

I am doing great at my lessons and my slow pace too.  I am working on carving (still) and feeling that graceful ski position and not the upper body twist I sometimes do.  This may take me a while and I am sure I will need a lot of practice. So since we haven’t had snow the entire month of January, I will be sacrificing something to the snow gods and praying for more snow in February when I take more Sundance Ladies Day lessons.  Despite the lack of precipitation, the snow machines at Sundance have made the absolute best of the snow they have and the conditions have been great. But fresh powder would be very welcome.  So, if you see me doing a ritual dance around my skis this week, you will know what I am doing!

Back On the Horse

Jan14Nancy Here!  I have been looking forward to Sundance Ladies Day since the last day of skiing in April 2013.  We purchased season passes and Sundance was blessed with enough snow to open early in December 2013 so we were able to ski several times before Sundance Ladies Day.  On my last ski day with my son, I took a nasty fall and could not make it down myself.  I had the joyous experience of taking a ride in a toboggan to the bottom of the mountain with Ski Patrol (Thanks Devon) where I was checked out by paramedics and declared physically OK.

However, I was not mentally OK. I was shaken to the core.  I began to doubt my skiing skills and whether or not I was ever cut out to ski.   The problem was that I have been the biggest cheerleader for Ladies Day and had invited 15 people to ski with me at Ladies Day.  Among those skiing with me this year is my dear friend Andrea who has only skied 3 times in her life and had given it up because she thought it was too hard and too cold.  So, despite my own doubts and fears, Andrea and I headed up to Sundance Ladies Day today.

To say I was worried, is an understatement.  I was fearful that I could not ski (even though I had been several times this season already).  Thank goodness I had Andrea to make me go.  Since it was her first time, she had a fabulous instructor named Scott assigned to her and they took off.  I was put in the Intermediate class with Lindsay and two other ladies (see Lindsay’s post Just Like Riding a Bike (Or Speeding Down the Mountain)! about her first day).  And thank goodness Cody Hale was my instructor again,  Cody had taught me to ski and had been there with me on the bunny hill.  He listened to my description of my fall, but years of teaching made him confident I would be fine.

So, up we went to the Back Mountain and BearClaw were I had fallen two weeks ago.  All the way up, I was thinking, “Can I even get off the lift?”  “What if I fall again and hit my head again?”  Well, the breathtaking beauty of the top of Sundance  began to calm my fears.  The day I had fallen was an icy day.  Today was wonderful!  I decided to just go for it and see what happened.

MAGIC!  I had not forgotten anything!  I was able to ski everything I had skied last season and do it with confidence.  This doesn’t mean I did not have some bad habits creep in that need some work and that I don’t have a lot to learn (A LOT), but I was able to conquer my fears and get back on the horse!  PHEW!  The day was a great milestone in my life because I was able to overcome my fears and see myself in a new light!

My friend Andrea did amazing and was able to get off the bunny hill and ski the first stop (mid mountain) 5 times!  WOOOOOO HOOOOO!  And even better than that, she loved it!  She is so excited to come back for more and have more experiences!  Now I have added one more great friend to ski with.  When we got home, Andrea said that she realized the wisdom of starting an activity like skiing with an instructor.  It got her farther in 2 hours than in the three times she had tried to ski before.

So, if you thought you were too old, had had a bad experience in the past, or just have not skied in years, this is the call to action!  Get out there and do it!  Sundance Ladies Day is an excellent place to do it but if you don’t live near Sundance, find the best ski instructors near you.  If you can come to Utah, Sundance is such a great place to learn because it has the right terrain for learning and superb instructors.  It is amazing.   And if you need to come down with Ski Patrol, Sundance is the best place to do that too.  Just make sure you get back on the horse because the ride is so worth it!

Ladies Day Jan 2014 – Just Like Riding a Bike (or Speeding Down a Mountain)!

This is Lindsay, here to fill in for Nancy and share my first Sundance Ladies Day experience of 2014 (Nancy will pphoto 2ost next week).

I am excited to be participating in Ladies Day for the third time.  I have been snowboarding for about 9 years and really love it.   However, my children (ages 4 and 6) are learning to ski and I want to be able to ski along with them and help them to progress, which is hard to do on a snowboard.  I also like the versatility of being able to choose my sport based on weather and conditions.  My family has been coming to Sundance regularly since moving to Utah 5 years ago and I love everything about the beauty and peace of the land.  I had a wonderful experience learning to cross-country ski at the Sundance Nordic Center Ladies Day a few years ago, so when Nancy suggested that I join her for downhill ski lessons, it didn’t take much to convince me.

Last winter I had a great time learning to ski and found that my downhill experience, combined with the great learning environment of Ladies Day, made it easy to progress in my skiing ability.  After a month of lessons, I skied a few times on my own, then signed up for another month of Ladies Day instruction to advance my skills.  However, a fall on an icy patch in the second week resulted in a knee injury that cut my ski season short.

So, it was with some nervousness that I approached my first ski day of 2014.  I was not afraid of an injury, but I was worried that after going 9 ½ months without practicing my newfound skills, they would be lost.  Utah was treated with some great early season snow, but each time I went to pack up my gear I regarded the skis with wariness (do I even remember how to put those on?!) and instead chose my old standby, the snowboard.  I remembered that I liked skiing and it felt very natural to learn, but that seemed so long ago.  My snowboarding skills are much stronger than my skiing abilities.  I thought, “What if I get up there and forget everything and waste a great snow day?”  Thus, the skis stayed packed away.

The morning of the first Ladies Day arrived and after the usual frenzy of getting my kids to school, I began the 30 minute drive to Sundance Resort.  As I entered the gorgeous Provo Canyon, my nervousness began to dissipate as I let myself be calmed by the natural beauty.  The drive to Sundance is lovely in any season, but in winter the snow on Mount Timpanogos and the surrounding peaks make it difficult not to feel at peace.  But, the butterflies returned when I struggled getting into my boots and tried to remember the right way to carry my skis and poles through the parking lot (one board is so much easier to manage!).  By the time I got to check-in I was unsure how to identify my skills to the Ski School staff since I had convinced myself that I was likely a Beginner again even though I ended last season in the Advanced group.  I settled on Intermediate, hoping not to embarrass myself too badly if I was wrong.

As I checked in with the Ladies Day staff, I was greeted by the friendly face of Kelly.  Kelly introduced me to my instructor, Cody Hale, who is the husband of the awesome Linda Hale.  Nancy and I had the pleasure of being in Linda’s class for Ladies Day last season and had a wonderful time.  I also heard great things about Cody from Nancy, who was in his class during her first experience with Ladies Day, so I was excited to get to work with him, as well.  Also in my group were two other women, Gayelynn and Becca.  I expressed my concern to the group about not remembering all that I learned last season and Cody gave me a reassuring smile, saying it was just like riding a bike.  I wasn’t convinced, but I was committed.

To my delight, I did remember how to put on my skis and made it onto the lift without falling.  The time on the lift was used to talk about our skiing experience, but for Cody the best assessment was to watch us ski.  We got off the lift at Mid-Mountain and he allowed us to ski for a bit without interruption so that he could determine our individual skill level.  He quickly noted our strengths and weaknesses and we began to work on edging and turning.  With some new techniques from Cody and echoes in my head of Linda’s past advice, it did not take long for me to feel the confidence return to my body as I made my way down the mountain.  Even though it had been many months since making the same movements, the skills came quickly back to me and it felt GREAT!

After making our way to the base, we rode Ray’s Lift to the top and worked on some different techniques while heading over to Jake’s.  We were happy to find that the conditions near Jake’s lift were great; the sun was shining and the trails were perfectly groomed for working on our turns.  The pitch of the hill allowed for us to work on our edges and practice using our speed, which the speed-demon in me loved.  After a few runs at Jake’s, I was really happy when Cody said we should go to the Back Mountain, via Flathead Lift.

One of the great perks of Ladies Day is riding the lifts with the other women in the group.  I enjoy getting to know them and finding out what has motivated them to learn to ski.  For Becca, it was to catch up to her 5 children who have all learned to ski at Sundance and are each becoming very skilled.  She wants to be able to ski with them and feels she needs to improve her skills to match theirs.  Becca’s 4 year old son was taking a lesson that day with the same instructor, Rebecca, that my son worked with a few weeks before.  Rebecca is a new instructor to Sundance and Becca was happy to hear that my son had a great experience with her.  She was glad to be able to bring him to a lesson while she was enjoying hers, which is another benefit of Ladies Day.

photo 1 The view from the top of Bearclaw is one of my favorite spots on earth.  This was the first time for Gayelynn to be there and she seemed very open and relaxed, which was inspiring to see.  We took advantage of the crystal clear view and took a photo from the top.  After the photo, we put together all of the skills we had been working on throughout the morning for the last run from the top of the mountain to the base, taking Bearclaw to Round Up, a diverse and scenic trail which is a family favorite.

We made it to the base exhilarated but disappointed that the lesson had come to an end.  It had been a great lesson to review and to build on my previous skills.  It was hard to recall the doubts I had just a few hours before.  Cody’s easy reassurance was right.  Once you learn to ride a bike, you cannot un-know it.  Now that I have learned to ski, I am a skier.  Though I cannot change that my first love was snowboarding, I’m grateful for the experiences at Sundance Ladies Day that have provided me with yet another way to speed down a mountain.

 

Tips to Deal with Bullies

With some tips, your kids can learn to handle bullying (the garden variety).  We discuss what works in the elementary, middle and high school years.  Check out more tips on the website http://www.stopbullying.gov/.

  1. Be a Role Model—Don’t Be a Bully.  Show them how to treat others with respect and kindness
  2. Use situations to teach—if you see something in a show or in life that is wrong or right, point it out
  3. Role Play with your kids to help them respond under stress
  4. IF they get bullied, replay the situation and try out different responses
    1. Can your child say STOP and look the bully in the eye?
    2. Can your child deflect with humor?
    3. Is your child too shy and needs to walk away?
  5. Don’t downplay their feelings (empathize with them but don’t make them a victim)
  6. Teach your child how to stay safe:
    1. Stay away from places where bullying happens
    2. Hang where there are adults.  Most bullying happens when adults are not aroud
    3. Talk to someone so you don’t feel alone
    4. Read Wimpy Kid
  7. Teach your children to embrace their own uniqueness and not want to be just like everyone else
  8. Stand up for others and be kind to a kid being bullied.  Show them someone cares

Collecting Family Stories

We discuss successful techniques to collect stories from family members this holiday season and every day of the year.  Capturing the stories and preserving the for your family is easy.  Learn how your phone or other digital recorder can be used and how to ask the right question to start the stories flowing.

 

Living Purposefully

The turkey is done, but the holiday madness rolls on!  Today, we discuss living purposefully and how to embrace the season and everyday for the rest of your life.  Join us in the dance.

Quotes Tricia Shared:

True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
-Helen Keller

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.
-Dalai Lama

Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.
-John F. Kennedy

When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.
-Wayne Dyer

Turkey and Sick Kids

No–it is not what you think.  The turkey doesn’t have salmonella.  Our kids are just sick with the late fall crud.  And since Shelly is dealing with her caboose being sick and life is crashing for Nancy and Tricia, we decided to give ourselves an early Thanksgiving Break.  Catch us the week after Thanksgiving–it will take us that much time to recover.  But have no fear.  We are working on great topics.

Digital Organization

Before the holidays, learn how to manage your digital life including what types of files to save, where to save them, how to make backups and what tools to use.

  • Dropbox (Nancy’s favorite because photos load from her phone directly on to Dropbox)
  • iCloud
  • Google Drive
  • Microsoft Sky Drive (Windows 8)
  • Hard Drive Backup: LaCie Iomega  You can even make your own personal Cloud.
  • Data Disaster Plan—Send to a relative in a different state
  • If you have multiple copies of the same file on your laptop, invest in a program that finds multiples to get back disk space