The news has been filled with stories of children being picked up by the police for walking to the park to play with parents investigated for neglect. This got us thinking about whether the world is such an unsafe place that we need to hover over our children or raise them in glass cages or if we are doing more damage by not allowing them to experience independence. Should we be the ones to call 911 when we see children alone or can we be the block mom and assess the situation before we get hysterical? We discuss our fears and the facts of today’s world.
We are taking a short hiatus due to health and family issues. We know you all understand because you are in the same situation we are in. Thank you for loving us and caring for us!
Since it is one of the places most visited by families with kids (our main listeners) and since we go there ourselves, we want to share the tips we learn for a successful trip. We discuss Tricia’s first trip with her clan and how she made the week spectacular.
Check out Disneyland Tips from a past show.
Tricia and Nancy discuss how to lose weight. Both women have lost large amounts of weight (70+105 pounds) and have changed their lives. Tricia is currently in the midst of her weight loss journey and is changing her life (70 pounds and going strong). She shares the reasons for her success and she and Nancy talk about what is most important when you decide to change your body and change your life. Nancy shares her journey to lose 105 pounds and her journey back to lose the 30 pounds she gained after surgery and recovery.
We talk to Spencer Behrend, Founder and CEO if KiLife about upcoming technology he and his wife envisioned after losing their child during a parade. Kiband is more than bluetooth tag for your child. It uses smart alerts to let you and your child know when your child has moved away from your zone of comfort and allows your child to learn to stay in the zone. It also has advanced features to warn you if your child enters the water. This product is so evolutionary that we had to talk about it even though it isn’t even out in the market yet. We want you to learn about it so you can be prepared when this great product is released.
Listen to Spencer and learn about the Kiband and how to develop an idea you have into a product. If you have ever had an idea and thought, “If I could find that product, I would buy it,” you may have a new product in the making.
I so look forward to January because of Sundance Ladies Day. It truly is the highlight of my winter. Today was the last day of the January Session and I will miss it. I can definitely use more ski lessons before I ski as beautifully as I want to, so maybe I will come back in March (February is WAY too busy and my boss wants me back at work). But, this session included some of my favorite women AND the best instructor on the mountain! How do you top that?
There is just something about Sundance that seems tailor-made for women hanging out together. As I sat at the bottom of Jake’s lift waiting for my daughter and her friends to finish skiing today (they had enough energy to do several additional runs after I was finished), I saw so many women skiing. Friends who came up to enjoy the day together or moms with their kids. Skiing seems like an aggressive sport that intimidates women, but the environment at Sundance is so laid back and inviting that it is the perfect place for us. I have been to other resorts that remind me of a snow-covered Disneyland–way too many people, way too long to get to where you want to be, way too much distraction. Sundance is calm, nurturing and natural.
This year, will be remembered as one of the best with several of my friends and my daughter’s friends getting on the slopes for the first time ever or in a long time. Some of these women I only met on the mountain but they now are my Snow Sisters! We have stories to tell, experiences to remember and better skiing skills.
If you have ever thought about getting back into skiing or starting to ski, Sundance Ladies Day is the way to do it. The supportive learning environment makes it easy to learn, the instructors are top-notch, and getting to know the other women is so dang fun. Come be a Snow Sister with us!
We continue our chat with Claire Lerner on how much screen time is appropriate and how to make the experience educational for your young child.
I love Sundance Ladies Day so much that I tell every woman I meet about it. This year, I was joined by 9 other women and three girls (total of 13) who I cajoled and chatted and convinced to come with me. It has been SO much fun! We have one class left, but I am celebrating today because today was great!
Ever since my first year skiing, I have been talking to my friend Shannon and telling her that she should come with me too. This year started out about the same way with me telling her she should come and her saying probably next year. BUT, something amazing happened. Shannon brought her daughters to ski with Anna in Ladies Day and when she saw us, she changed her mind! I actually did not believe she would show up for the next lesson. But she did!
Along with Shannon, my neighbor Chandani agreed to ski this year too! Like Shannon, I thought Chandani would find some reason not to come. Chandani is from India where no one skis. She had no snow clothes so she borrowed everything from me and headed up the mountain with me and Andrea.
It has been so fun to see two Never Evers ski. It brings me back to my own experience 4 years ago when I was a Never Ever. Listening to them talk about how they felt the first day and how hard it was (Shannon told me that she might never forgive me after her first day) to seeing them ski today and how happy they were to ski that they wanted to ski after Ladies Day. So, we went up to Mid Mountain and I got a chance to film them after three lessons.
Check them out (and the girls). Yes, it isn’t perfect skiing, but for 3 days on the mountain, it’s pretty darn good! It makes me realize what anyone can do. Think you can’t ski? Think Again!
So why are they doing so well? The great instructors in the Sundance Ladies Day! Steve was stellar at taking my friend Andrea from 0-100 last year (she is a rock star and was able to get to the back mountain in 4 lessons) and he’s taken Chandani and Shannon from Never Ever to being excited to ski and looking forward to more. And Eleanor has only skied 4 times with Sundance Instructors. Look how incredibly great she is doing too!
What about me? I had a fabulous day working on my carving with Kipper and the ladies in my group. I am a groomer girl and I loved today. Perfect Bluebird and warm. I appreciate so much that Kipper takes the time to talk to each woman in the group and see what her challenges are and help individually. I have an issue with my legs that makes it difficult to bend as much as others. Kipper modified what she was teaching me to fit my needs and helped me get better. That is a great instructor! Look how happy we all are!
So, if you think you can’t be up on the mountain skiing with your family or friends (or even alone in the beauty of nature), think again! Look what you can do at Sundance Ladies Day!
Claire Lerner discusses with us how much screen time should you let your child have on tablets, smartphones, and tvs. She discusses the first scientific study of what screen time does and doesn’t do for your child and how to maximize learning when screens are in use.
Unlike our typical Tuesdays where we have the mountain to ourselves, we had to share it with a lot of people suffering Powder Flu. But, even with the extra people, we had a wonderful (but tough) time on the mountain. Skiing powder is not a skill any of us have mastered and it is intimidating and tough when you are not used to it. And by the time we got there, all the runs had been chopped up by the Powder Hounds who were lined up at 9am to get on the lift.
So, what we thought was going to be a day of fun in the snow turned into a day of pushing ourselves to learn some new skills. But with Kipper as our guide, we embraced the challenge. Ladies shuffled around a bit in the classes to the levels they felt comfortable with (or uncomfortable with as my friend Laura found out when she moved up to our class). That’s not uncommon. Sundance Ladies Day is focused on getting each woman in the right group and learning something that stretches her. We were ALL stretched today by the conditions and the concepts. But that is what it’s all about, right?
Let me say that skiing the choppy stuff is not my favorite–especially when you are skiing in fog and can’t see where you are going (and you hit a mogul made by someone when you think you are on a groomed run). But today, we focused on being less stiff in our legs and allowing our lower body to go with the terrain and be light on our feet. Easier said than done when you are terrified you will run into someone since you can’t see them in front of you. But, Kipper made us feel at ease and gave us fabulous instructions on what to do.
So, even Laura who had not skied the Back Mountain EVER was able to get it. Of course there was a lot of falling today, but the powder makes it so much easier when you do fall. On one run, Andrea fell 3 times in less than 3 minutes. We just laughed and enjoyed ourselves (I should have gotten a picture but I was trying not to fall myself).
My Newbie Friends Chandani and Shannon had a great day falling too. That’s all a part of learning but is much easier when you fall on powder instead of packed snow. Shannon has decided that she doesn’t hate me for bringing her and looks forward to our next two classes (last week, she was unsure if she wanted to be my friend anymore). Chandani was so excited that she wanted to stay and ski longer. Sadly, our kids had to get back to school so Shannon and I had to decline the offer. Being 20 years older than Chandani also probably had something to do with it but I won’t tell her that if you don’t. My legs are sore and I was glad that class ended when it did.
One of the best kept secrets at Sundance is that their instructors are led by Jerry Warren, an amazing ski instructor who literally wrote the book on how to ski. Today, I got my own copy of the Home Base Ski Program he designed (and the one that all instructors at Sundance use). It is simple and focused and gets you from where you are to where you want to be in skiing quickly. Thanks Jerry for the manual and the one-on-one tips today. It is a bonus to have you on the mountain checking to see that we are having fun while learning and pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone. My C Shape improved based on your tips! And thanks Kipper for the Bearclaw pin! Feels good to earn it!
One of the best skills you can teach your child is to problem solve for them self. Whether they are 4 or 14, this skill will become one they use throughout their life. Julie Nelson shares 5 steps to help kids learn how to make decisions along with practical examples to help you see how to put these steps into practice.
Step 1: Define the problem. Context changes perception for each person. Be sure that both people agree or moving forward will be going in the wrong direction.
Step 2: Generate possible solutions. Let the child do this as much as possible so they feel empowered. Don’t shoot them down right way. Let them feel safe with their ideas. Offer some of your own. If they say, “I don’t know,” tell them that you’ll give you both time to think about it and come back.
Step 3 Evaluate possible solutions. “That doesn’t work for me” is a good way to phrase a bad idea. Make sure this ends up being a win-win for both of you.
Step 4: Implement the decision. Try it out. See how it works. Step 5: Evaluate. Get back together and see how the solution worked or is working.
Step 5: Evaluate. Get back together and see how the solution worked or is working.
This year, I convinced several friends who haven’t skied for years (and decades) to get back into skiing. If you haven’t noticed, I LOVE Ladies Day. These women had skied with husbands and boyfriends and some with other women, but that was YEARS ago and they had never experienced the comradery of working on a skill with other women. There isn’t a feeling like this. Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband and my kids, but skiing in Ladies Day is my time to focus on me and what I can do and spend time with my friends while doing it. And besides, look at the INCREDIBLE view we have.
There is no competition and no frustration. We all are working together to improve ourselves and we celebrate the successes of the women we ski with. There really isn’t anything like it. Today was no exception! With my band of Merry Friends, we headed up to Sundance for a wonderful experience. The day did not disappoint!
This year, I’m in Kipper’s class (my dream instructor) with my friend Andrea who learned to ski LAST year (this is my 4th year and she is in the same class–can you say someone is an over-achiever) along with Emily (I met her through her husband who bought skis from me) and my friend Lindsay (who had to postpone today because of a sick kiddo). We met some other great ladies in our group and had a wonderful ski day. It was a time to remember all those skills I have learned before and work on my form. I was pleased that this was the first year, I don’t feel like the worst in my class. Practice makes you better (not perfect).
One of the nice things about skiing with other women, is you can express how you feel. All of us had some level of terror about being up on the mountain again. It is a safe place to express that fear and get support. We all had things to work on and fears to overcome. Since I have been up several times before Ladies Day, I was probably the most comfortable of the bunch. That felt good because I could concentrate on having a good time while learning.
I also convinced my neighbor Chandani who has never skied before to ski with us. She came today and started. It was a bunny hill day for her but she is ready for another lesson! Seeing all of us having such a good time convinced my friend Shannon who was kind of on the fence to start too! Since she was there dropping of her girls, she has decided to come on Thursday to catch up to Chandani! Two Never Evers this year! WHOOOO HOOOO!
Even though the snow was not perfect and there were a few rocks showing through, Ladies Day was fabulous and warm and wonderful! I look forward to next week. If you are thinking about coming up, all I can say is that it is the best thing to do to help your skiing!
Shelly’s family has a big change coming. It’s not what you are thinking (or at least not what we were thinking). Listen and learn what amazing change her family has to look forward to.
We are taking a break on podcasting until the New Year. Please send us show ideas and other things you would like to share with us.
Happy Holidays and all the best in 2015. See you in the New Year!
Does emotional eating sabotage your ability to enjoy a healthy weight and keep it off? Do you eat when you are bored? Depressed? Anxious? How about when experiencing too much stress or when you are feeling a need to reward yourself? Chances are that your emotions are feeding your appetite for overeating and you are an emotional eater. We chat with Dr. Denise Wood, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and co-author of
Psyched to be Skinny. We discuss how to identify your emotional eating patterns and what you can do to help stop emotional eating so you can achieve a healthy weight and keep it off for life.
Are you ready to change your relationship to food? Are you ready to have more control over your emotions and become happier and healthier? Are you ready to lose weight and keep it off? If you suffer from emotional eating you will find the help, support and answers you are looking for.
Have a dream you want to realize? Want to teach your kids to dream big? We talk with Dallas Clayton, author and dreamer whose book An Awesome World shows kids and adults how to dream big. Learn what it takes to make dreams come true and how Dallas is changing the world.
Check out this video about Dallas. Dallas has a great book on Thankfulness and a great book on Love you should check out and share with your kids during Thanksgiving and around Valentine’s Day (or any time of the year). There is even one for the adults. Check them out!
Check out the Lilly Mae bags The 20% discount code is Holiday 2014. Lilly Mae is owned and run by Stay-at-Home Moms! Support moms everywhere in their dreams!
We discuss ways to teach children gratitude and love this holiday season through small acts. Starting in November and going in to December, these tips help teach kids how to focus on gratitude and family instead of on what your kids are “getting this Christmas.”
Starting in November:
- Start a Wall of Thanks or a Thankfulness Chain. You can leave the Wall of Thanks up during after Thanksgiving and add to it as you go into the holidays. Or, you can create a chain of thoughts of things you are thankful for. This chain could be added to your Christmas Tree. Let kids write as many things they are thankful for.
- Plan some acts of service for others. Make it something your kids can participate in. Maybe your elderly neighbors need some help with their leaves or there is a place for the homeless where you can bring some gently used clothes. Starting in November gives you a chance to start the holiday season off right.
- Contact a local shelter or crisis center and ask what they might need for kids and if they accept gently used items. Help you kids decide which toys or stuffed animals they can part with. Help them clean the toys and prepare them for drop off.
We ask our kids “How was school today?” and hear “Fine.” End of discussion. Why do we ask it then every day hoping for more? Because we want to connect with our kids. Our intention is right, but the question is wrong. We discuss ways to ask your kids about their day at school without asking the wrong question that gets no response. The idea came from a post by Liz at Simple Simon and Company. Check out their two lists of questions to ask your children instead of “How Was School Today?”
What do you do when your teen treats you with disrespect? How do you deal with it when your simple request is responded to with venom? Julie Nelson shares very practical tips on how to help your child navigate the hormonal horrors of the teen years that often set them off.
Use the following phrases:
- Say Yes with a No: Yes you can go out as soon as you . . .
- I noticed that . . .
- It appears that . .
- That doesn’t work for me . . .
A few more tips:
- Often kids need to blow off steam so using physical activities to help them get back in balance often helps.
- Use Parallel Talk: this is when you do something while talking. This could include taking a walk, playing basketball, crafting, etc. Anything that gives you time together and a chance to talk where you don’t have to look right at each other.
- Past Performance Predicts Present Privileges: If your kids know that what they have done in the past helps determine what they will be able to do in the future, that will help them know what is coming
- Loosen the reigns as much as you can. The teen years are a time to give them a chance to experience more freedom and learn how to use it wisely.
- Know that mistakes will be made by both you and your child so be prepared to have do-overs.